HUGE EPIC QUESTION! Sometimes, when he asked you this question, literally it feels like A BULLET STRIKE STRAIGHT TO YOUR HEART!! What do you do when your boyfriend tells you ‘lose weight’? How do you react when the man of your lifetime wants you to lose weight and is being VERY LOUD ABOUT IT?
Do you need to feel very hurt and don’t know how to react. If he says that physical beauty is important to him because he is very visual so why not you slowly asked him back, “Hubby,can you please go to the gym and get ready that 6 paxs abs and huge arm FOR ME? *do it with roll eyes*, let see what is his responds. If he say yes, WELL GIRL! You have to challenge yourself and start with a proper diet, BUT IF HE SAY NO, GIRL! Slap his face! Why you need to change but when you ask him to change he say NO!Nak suruh neraka turun langit boleh!!
But in a relationship when this issue raised up, you will feel very hurt and rejected. Usually,he feels guilty for telling you this but usually he says that because it is better to be honest and not hide how he feels about this because maybe for this relationship he need to have open communication. Then one part of you still glad that he is open with you because it would be much worse if he didn’t tell you how he feels about this issue and instead started cheating with someone skinnier. Got my point lady? Sometimes boys also need something eye candy for everything, BUT ITS ALL DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION! If he keep on LABELING you or give you names such as, “HUGE PORK”, “BABI GEMUK”, “POKOK BALAK” girl, I am here telling you to slap his face and roll his body under your car. Look at this way, if during your relationship he give and call you names, what will happen, after your dream garden wedding? Start with calling names, then slapping on your face, then start with abuse mind and your body, THEN YOU DIE! Think this way if he keep on calling your names during your dating scene already start.
To my ladies, ask this to yourself,
1)How do YOU feel about your weight?
2)Do YOU want to lose weight?
Listen, if you are happy with your appearance you should not adjusting who you are and what makes you happy. However, you need to ask yourself if this is the kind of sacrifice you are willing to make for the man of your life to be happy, and how this will reflect on your relationship. Like I always mentioned earlier, relationship is about gives and take. COMMUNICATE! Don’t COMPROMISE! REMEMBER? REMEMBER!!!!!! There is a bigger issue behind the question of losing weight,your boyfriend may feel that you don’t respect him and his wishes, and that you are not willing to do your part in a relationship to make it work.
One of the reasons men drift away from a relationship is the loss of physical attraction. Physical attraction and chemistry is A HUGE EPIC ingredient of a healthy relationship. You need to decide how YOU can balance being who you are and pleasing your boyfriend. Let say he need you to lose a bit of weight because he is concerned about your health then you should try and take it on action. Just try and do it for yourself and not some guy who is being mean to you. You are worth it.
With Inside my mind,
Apple Nicol Luna
apa kes nie....
ReplyDeletesis